From Preschool to Theoretical Physics - Coach Roland on Life Long Learning

F our year olds don't need discipline, they need direction and redirection. They need watching with love, kindness, and patience. I'm going to tell you the truth. Time outs or spanking are usually substitutes for patience and wisdom. Often after we have become resentful, our patience runs out. Then we feel frustration. If we are not yelling (or worse), we look for some way to force the child to comply. Usually it for our own benefit, that way we can go back to watching television or whatever else we want to do. . We might even resort to a canned, cleverly marketed Orwellian behavior modification program to sugar coat forced compliance. Then there is always the specter of psychotropic meds. . Preview my book online . But first, I know what you are going to say, because I have heard it before. . I even heard it from a nice lady who was a receptionist at an office I used to visit. I told her that I was writing a book about parenting. . "W...

"Should parents spank their kids? " Absolutely not," says Roland Trujillo, pastor, lecturer, and author of 17 books. "It is totally unnecessary."   "For 25 plus years I have advocated against spanking. What does spanking accomplish? It introduces the child to fear, to trauma, and often to rage. It turns some children into fearful conformists, and others into rebels because of their hatred of the parent who used violence on them.  Spanking is often a euphemism for something much worse. Inflicting harm on an innocent defenseless child is despicable. It is bullying--the evidence of a tyrant, a large person hurting a small person. It is evidence of lack of patience, kindness, gentleness, self control, forbearance, and wisdom. It is a massive betrayal.  Here are two things that need to be stated. Child abuse is a little known contributing factor of violence against women. The male child who is beaten, slapped, spanned, yelled at, teased, or verbally...