Ann Landers had it right
Remember Ann Landers? She was the famous advice columnist who had a daily column in hundreds of newspapers from coast to coast. People sent her troubling personal problems. She gave advice, often quite good. I’ll never forget something she said. Near the end of her long and illustrious career, she was interviewed by someone who asked her: After all your years of giving advice, if you could give people just one piece of advice—what would it be? Being in the advice business myself, I could not wait to hear her response. She thought about it for a moment and then responded: “If I could give people just one piece of advice, it would be to be more forgiving.” She had seen too many relationships and families destroyed by resentment, unforgiveness, and grudges. She had seen too many people destroyed by bitterness and unhappiness, the result of not forgiving another. Her advice: Be more forgiving. All I can say is “amen.” If a person were to set out to ruin their own life,