How Do I Discipline My 2 Year Old

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Two year olds don't need discipline, they need direction and redirection. They need watching with love, kindness, and patience.

I'm going to tell you the truth. Time outs or spanking are usually substitutes for patience and wisdom. Often after we have become resentful, our patience runs out. Then we feel frustration. If we are not yelling (or worse), we look for some way to force the child to comply. Usually it for our own benefit, that way we can go back to watching television or whatever else we want to do.
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We might even resort to a canned, cleverly marketed Orwellian behavior modification program to sugar coat forced compliance. Then there is always the specter of psychotropic meds.
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So I have decided to make my latest book (now available at Amazon.com) free for you to read online.
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But first, I know what you are going to say, because I have heard it before.
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I even heard it from a nice lady who was a receptionist at an office I used to visit. I told her that I was writing a book about parenting.
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"What are you writing about right now?" she asked.
I said: "Right now I'm writing about how awful it is to force a child to stay in her room just because she was a little slow in cleaning her room. "
She said: "That's what I do with my daughter. I make her stay in her room."
I shook my head. This nice lady has thick glasses on, and I could see a picture behind her desk of a little angelic looking girl with thick glasses on (I'm guessing this was her daughter).
I said, "Why don't you try patience?"
Do you know what she said?
She said, "I tried patience and it doesn't work!"
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I assured her that patience does work.
You see--she, like so many other parents, doesn't think that patience will work. But it's because she never gave it a chance. Resentment, frustration and upset toward her daughter blocked patience so it never came to the fore. No wonder she says it doesn't work. It wasn't there.
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You see, patience never fails.
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In fact, there is a famous verse in the Bible, where Paul talks about love, and he says love never fails.
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Well, here's something I know for sure. Patience=love.
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So now I am going to prove to you that patience does work.
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I know that if I can convince you that patience works, both you and your child will be much happier.
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All you have to do is preview the first 40 or 50 pages free at Amazon (it's a quick read) and you will have discovered several strategies that are based in patience and that really work.
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But I quickly want to mention why you run out of patience: it is resentment. Resentment washes away patience and reason, and makes you feel frustrated, angry and upset.
I can help you with letting go of resentment. I even offer online consultation at LivePerson.
But first I want you to read some of the book.
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Of course, you can also buy it. But I will be happy if it helps improve your relationship with your child. Then you can put a customer comment at Amazon or send me an email.
Your friend, Roland


 Written in the tradition of LePetit Prince and Jonathan Livingston Seagull, this beautiful little book can be read as a heart warming story; but like Le Petit Prince, it also is filled with profound insights and meaning. Santa's Take on Parenting can be read over and over, and it makes a great gift.





  • Shadow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they demonstrate their skills in gently but firmly guiding two kids who are visiting with them.

  • Find out the secrets to their success.

  • Discover what Santa's skills are and why they work.

  • Let Santa and Mrs. Claus be your mentors!


I know you will enjoy it and hopefully there will be something in it that will help you with your parenting.


Incidentally, just as parenting is a year round job, so is learning and developing your parenting skills! Don't wait until the holidays.






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