My Child Does Not Like School

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Keep things in perspective. Twenty years from now you child won't remember how he did on one assignment. Someday, no one will even ask her what grades she got.

But she will remember some special moment whether you demonstrated love and understanding or not.

Like I said, when I was teaching M.B.A students, I was tough. I made the course rigorous and I was not interested in excuses. But..........If your child does not want to do her homework (or is having trouble with her homework), it is not her fault. And if she doesn't like school. there is a reason. Trust me.

Maybe I can help you discover what is going on.
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Here's an example maybe you can relate to. Think about your work. Remember when some hard hats, who did not have a clue, came around the work site? You had to humor them and keep them from getting hurt. You couldn't wait until they were gone, so you could get back to work. Think back to some incredibly boring staff meeting or office meeting. Someone up front went on and on, talking about something that had nothing to do with you. You could not wait till it was over and you could get back to work.
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Now you know what school is often like on the best day. Most everything is so boring, irrelevant, dumbed down and slow that it is hard to stay awake. And if it's not too slow, then it is presented in such as way as to be hard to follow.

That's the best day. Remember when you started work somewhere and had no idea what was going on. You felt confused and didn't know what to do. This is what school is like permanently for kids who fall behind and never catch up.

But it gets worse. There is far more mayhem, violence, mugging, theft, bullying, drugs, and even gang activity than you realize. There is so much disruption that it is hard to concentrate.

The material is either very boring and too easy, or more likely it is confusing and overwhelming.

It is often presented too soon or too late. No, I'm not blaming.

Nor am I being negative. I'm just being honest. Frankly the best things about school are band, glee club, shop, and sports. But guess what is happening? Some schools are cutting back on these, the very things that make school bearable!

Therefore: some possible issues are: the homework is boring, too soon, too late, or the child is being overwhelmed.

Sometimes the child is being pressured, or school is frightening or chaotic. There are situations where someone is threatening or hurting the child at school.

Maybe the home is atmosphere is troubling to the child, with a brother or sister in trouble or off at war, or parents are resenting each other and talking about divorce. Sometimes there is some physical basis (like eye problems) that accounts for academic difficulties.

Take time to spend time with your child.

Help her with her homework, or take her for a walk or bike ride.

For the time being, put the homework issue on the back burner, and just be.

Just be with your child. Don't have any agenda. Don't try to make anything happen. Just be with your child.

There is plenty of pressure out there. Make sure you are not pressuring your child.

. . . . Read My Child Does Not Want To Do Her Homework, Part 2 : The specific


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